One of the things that affects people with fear of intimacy is the difficulty of getting into sexual relationships, because sex can often seem like an embarrassing and awkward subject.

However one of the great things that the Internet has provided is a means for people to connect with each other and discuss these problems in Internet forums.

In addition, of course, one of the other things that the Internet provides is a number of programs which have been written by relationship experts to give people advice about how to deal with certain problems they face: getting into relationship, or dealing with relationship breakups, or sexual difficulties, for example. This avoids the need to see a counselor or therapist in person.

Let’s not overlook the amazing benefit that these online resources can provide for people who would find it difficult to talk face to face about intimate matters, and for those who seek a relationship.

(The need for relationship is strong in all of us, regardless of the level of comfort we have with intimacy.)

Now I’m not seeking to make light of these problems, because I do think they are very serious and sometimes can inhibit people’s lives in a major way.

Our need for the love of another

On the other hand, by using an Internet program you can avoid the difficulty of speaking to a counselor or therapist in person, while at the same time getting some seriously good advice about how to deal with issues.

Relationships: dedication and effort makes them succeed

One of the things that matters here is personal discipline and dedication to applying the solutions you discover online to your own particular problems.

However, I can’t help you with that!

One of the difficulties you will face in dealing with any emotional or psychological problem is being able to incorporate the knowledge you get from an Internet program into your everyday life.

Let’s consider for a moment the issue of people who have broken up after a relationship has ended because they are not able to establish intimacy with another person or because they’re not comfortable with intimacy.

Relationship repair is one of the most necessary things for anybody, because the pain of breakup can be so great, leaving in its wake anger, sadness, guilt fear and shame.

I know only too well, having counseled people who have broken up with their partners for many years now, how serious a relationship breakup can actually be in terms of a person’s lowered self-esteem confidence and happiness.

It’s perhaps inevitable that once a relationship has broken up, one or both partners suffers another blow to their confidence around the area of intimacy.

So what I recommend is that if you’re an a relationship that’s ended, and you are looking to establish a new relationship, or if you’re looking to find a way of bringing an old relationship back together, read this: how to get your ex back.

This site provides all kinds of suggestions about what you should do (and what you should not do!) if you’re trying to establish a relationship (or re-establish a relationship).

For example, should you contact or your ex partner within a period of 30 days or wait longer? The website addresses all such questions and issues, and tells you why these rules – if indeed they are “rules” – have been proposed, and why they could well be broken in individual cases.

At the end of the day, being able to conduct a relationship with another human being is all about emotional maturity. Sure it is, and it’s also necessary for two partners to see the similarities in each other, and to understand they are more important than their differences.

Relationships Work Because Of Effort 

And needless to say, it’s also about finding a partner who you can truly love with your heart open and making yourself vulnerable to them. This requires trust. Establishing trust, building intimacy, eventually falling in love are all aspects of relationship success.

Feel The Fear

It could well be, therefore, that the first thing you need to do is to allow yourself to explore the possibility of feeling the fear that you live with and going into it totally, exploring it to the full, letting it take over your soul, and finding that you can actually come out the other side without suffering unduly.

This is the area of the Magician Archetype, where experiencing transformation is possible – indeed probable.

You see, the Magician Archetype (or rather the energy of the magician), is mainly exemplified in the human body as the energy of fear, and this is a gateway to transformation.

It could well be that your fear is an ally rather than an enemy, and it may help you to find a way through pervasive fear (which stops you doing things) to an emotional place where your confidence is much greater and you find renewed vitality and happiness in life.

In any event, if you are experiencing fear of intimacy in your life, I suggest you work on it by examining the Magician archetype in you.

You may wish to see a counselor to explore how you could go through your fears of intimacy,  sex and intimate relationships, so as to come out the other side, hopefully able to conduct a relationship with another human being….

….. and experience all the joys and rewards of relationship which accrue naturally.

After all, being in an intimate relationship is a natural aspect of humanity, and you have as much right as anybody else to establish a relationship and be happy in it.

Needless to say, you also have the right to establish a sexual relationship and enjoy your sexuality to the full without shame or guilt. Such is the reward of coming through fear to confidence.

You only have to look at the pain that people experience when a sexual or romantic or loving  relationship comes to an end to understand how vital it is for everyone in our society to feel they are part of a couple.

Why should this be? After all, we are social animals, but the need for connection and even love can be met by being part of a larger group, not necessarily being part of a pair bond.

Could it be that there is a biological program deep inside us which compels us to overcome our biological ancestry (which might imply males meeting with as many females as possible, and females bringing up offspring on their own) –  and is it possible this need to be in a couple is part of the evolution in consciousness which came about as the development of the neocortex, the sophisticated part of our brain that allows us to think and reason?

Yes, it probably is, and this is interesting because it’s also the neocortex which allows us to use the process of manifestation by means of the law of attraction to get what we want.

It’s here that the subconscious resides, the capacity of this part of our brain far outweighing that of the most sophisticated supercomputer, perhaps even working as an atomic computer, or perhaps working through some mysterious energetic connection with a universal knowledge database.

In a way it doesn’t really matter which of these is the true explanation of manifestation and the law of attraction, because the very fact that we can manifest what we want to using our mind is in itself sufficient reward for being human on the face of this planet in our current era. Love, it would seem, is just a bonus! And a loving relationship is some kind of reward for being human. Pleasing each other by loving each other is a corollary of being human, too.

And yet, as you may have observed, comparatively few people are able to manifest successfully using attraction as basis of reality creation. Comparatively few people manifest the sexual relationship they want, either. If you wish to be one of the few who do then  click here to discover all about the secrets of pleasing a woman by manifesting reality.

Is there, do you think, some discrepancy between the talents and abilities bestowed on us by our evolutionary history and the designing creative force of the universe, and our capacity to see into the spiritual world and use these abilities to our advantage?

Again, the answer is almost certainly yes – we’ve been gifted with a phenomenal brain, of which we use, by even the most conservative estimate, no more than 10%.

The vast reserves of subconscious knowledge and intelligence that allow us to access universal intelligence and which also allow us to achieve the relationship we want, create a perfect pairbond based on love, and open our hearts to the people we love.

There is plenty of evidence nowadays that heart is just as powerful mechanism in terms of neural power of the brain, and there is plenty of evidence to suggest that none of us are using this resource to the full. What then, is the way forward?

The way forward probably relies on us taking advantage of the power of our minds to create reality using the essence of the connection we can establish to the subconscious mind and from their to universal intelligence.

If you want a relationship, for example, in particular if you want to establish good sexual relationship, one which will allow you to please a woman in bed, the way to do it is to visualize your outcome.

As Mike Dooley has it, you don’t do this in specific minute detail, but you do it in generalities which will allow you to imagine the overall “flavor” or emotional tone of what you want.

So for example, rather than specifying the exact color and appearance of your desired mate, what you do would be to visualize your beloved encapsulated in some image of the happiness and love  you will experience when you are with your ideal partner.

If you wanted money, you wouldn’t specific specify an exact sum of money in a bank account, but you’d visualize the prosperity and abundance and everything you could have by using symbols such as an expensive car and house, expensive holidays, and so forth, without being attached those details.

In this way it is possible to manifest reality without becoming attached to the trivialities that are simply so disruptive – something known as the cursed hows.

But for a relationship, a sexual relationship, consider this: it’s a natural evolutionary state of being human to be in a relationship, and its a natural evolutionary capacity of the human mind to visualize and therefore manifest reality. You can put these two things together and create the relationship you want.

It’s a phenomenal prospect, allow you virtually unlimited possibilities for what reality creation can offer you, and it’s amazing that you, as a human being, can access to this power.

It’s been said that we need to reach a certain level of conscious evolution to be able to access this power, but I’m not sure I believe that – I think it’s open to everyone who has the capacity to apply themselves to manifestation using certain simple psychological and psychic principles.